Once upon a time, I was a super independent young woman. I was bound and determined to do this life on my own with no help from anyone. I hated asking for help and I craved independent success.
I was doing pretty okay for myself for a while until I wasn’t. The truth is, it’s hard to make ends meet as a young person with no one to split the bills with.
After having my first born at 23 and becoming a single/solo mom (read more about that here), things got even harder. Now, I had a baby to care for, and as we all know, that’s expensive. I never received a dime of child support and her needs were 100% dependent on me. No pressure, right?
Fortunately, my dad was a huge help during that time, and it was because of his support that I was able to start my own business after being laid off. But, even then, I worked my tail off, and while my business was pretty successful, it was a one-woman operation. I would’ve hated to see my hourly rate.
Flash forward to now- I’m a married mom of THREE! My blog has been very successful and I’ve been able to do what I love- write and connect with people. It’s an absolute dream.
But, it’s a dream that I’m only able to pursue because of my husband. The truth is, it takes time to get a blog off of the ground and to make money from it and even with having a successful blog, I couldn’t do any of this without the support of my husband.
Because, as you know, having 3 kids means there are a lot of expenses. Health insurance alone, is a huge expense. But, my husbands employer provides that. Then there’s child care. Lucky for me, my husbands job allows me to be a stay-at-home mom.
A few years ago, we relocated to Tennessee for my husbands job, and for the first time in my life, I was able to pick what I wanted to do. Did I want to continue my cupcake business that was consuming all of my free time? (And again, that hourly rate). Did I want to only focus on being a SAHM? Did I want to start a new business? For once, it wasn’t about what paid the most. It was about what I really wanted to do. And that was because I had a husband who covered all of ours needs already.
I don’t say all of this to brag or boast about my life, but to simply recognize the person behind the scenes, who without his support, none of this would exist. If it weren’t for him, I wouldn’t be able to turn down sponsored posts and be selective in who I partner with. I wouldn’t have been able to take some time off from my blog when my mom passed away. I would likely have to work a “real job” and put this blog on the side- if I even did it at all.
As much grief as I like to give him on social media, he is the foundation of this blog. He is the reason why I get to pursue something that I love *and* stay at home with my babies with no pressure to support our family (that’s all on you, babe 😉).
And maybe you’re not a blogger, but a crafter. Maybe you have a crafty business that you get to do while being a SAHM. Maybe you are a baker or a writer or simply a SAHM who doesn’t have the pressure of financially providing for your family. For that, we oughta sing our husbands praises.
Good men still exist. I know because I have one. He may leave all the cabinet doors open, collect water bottles on his night stand and miss the laundry hamper by mere inches, but he’s a good man who deserves some recognition for supporting our family and me and this blog.
So, cheers to the good men that we poke fun at, who allow us to do what we love!